Tuesday, 23 April 2013

A child of no consequence.

A child of no consequence.

Yet another rape and death of a child in India.
This tiny human being, this little girl, this small daughter..is just one story, plucked out from thousands of similar stories.
This beautiful, innocent girl, died from chronic internal injuries, inflicted by the unbelievable callousness of her rapist.
Human rights were meaningless and non-existent to this poor, defenceless child.

But...If she had been born a child of consequence. If she had been the daughter of a President, a Prime-minister, Royalty, the Elite or even a Celebrity. It would have been a 'Big Deal'.
It would have been a big deal to the mass media, the judiciaries, to society and to the world.
The perpetrator would have been found and brought to justice, swiftly and dealt with severely.
There would have been public outcry and an outpouring of sympathy.
There would maybe, be a change of law. A memorial and maybe a school or children's hospital named after her.
The worlds media would run constant stories, including the arrest and trial of the rapist and murderer. There would be endless internet discussions and documentaries made.
This story would reverberate all around this empathetic planet for many years after.

But...This little girl was not a child of consequence.
Her tiny, damaged body will be buried under the ground and forgotten...just like her story, and the thousands of other stories like hers.

What kind of world do we live in, when only the rapes and deaths of children of consequence are addressed in such worldly regard and the poor and insignificant children are dismissed like yesterdays newspaper.

She was not just one of 'India's daughters' She was one of the Worlds daughters...She was one of my daughters...and she was one of yours. 

This  woman is one of life's real heroes, in my opinion she deserves a nobel prize for helping India's sex-trafficked children. She has seen  first hand..the destruction of childrens raped bodies...please check out her website and help her.

And see her speak here- 


Monday, 8 April 2013

The commercialisation of sex crimes

The commercialisation of sex crimes

aka- hard-core / Gonzo pornography

My Thoughts...
Anyone in the world... including children; At the click of a mouse, can actually watch the most sexually violent crimes in the comfort of their own homes, workplace, school or indeed 'on the go'.
In reality, most people would be horrified if they observed say a 'Gang rape' occurring in front of their eyes and would hopefully help the victim by calling the police. And if it were a child who witnessed such a heinous act, would definitely be in need of therapy for PTSD.

Yet...thousands of adults and children are viewing such sexual violence like gang rape, everyday, all over the globe. These crimes have become to many, both accessible and acceptable in this pornified rape culture of ours.
 One of the psychological aspects of this, is that the consumer can view these act's anonymously, giving a sense of legitimacy and the capability of emotional  aversion and detachment.
Adding to this problem is the false belief that the 'actress' is actually enjoying being gang raped. Which are the lies fed to the consumer by the pornographers.
 Being gang raped by numerous  males would be both psychologically and physically incredibly damaging. And as I have said before (please read in my 'sex industry' blog) most of the 'actresses' are either trafficking or self abuse victims.
So, even if some of these actresses are genuinely  'enjoying' being gang raped...that does not account for all those who are forced or coerced into these acts. In other words..you don't really know under what circumstances you are watching.

Therefore, these combined elements, psychologically justifies the acceptable viewing of sexual violence. Whether it be curiosity, sex education, entertainment or self gratification; This fuels the demand for more victims (both within pornography and reality) and increased sexual violence, to satisfy those who's cravings escalate, due to a diminished sexual/emotional responsiveness to over exposure of stimulus. It also becomes a serious addiction that can be incredibly detrimental to their psyche.

Overtime and after excessive exposure, these said acts become so tolerant and acceptable, that they lead to total desensitization. Which in turn, promotes a distorted view of beliefs and attitudes; That women crave and enjoy sexual violence. This is especially significant in many young boy's, who's neurological pathways are not mature enough to form social attitudes, moral behaviour, human complexities and world opinion.
 And added to that is the sexualisation of  many young girls, objectification, sexism and self objectification.  Also, the belief that 'females deserve to be raped because of what society and the judicial system implies, by victim blaming and leniency on the perpetrators. There is also the element of social acceptance and tolerance amongst their peers.

So, it is this and the following generations of immature, misguided and impressionable minds, that should cause most concern.
Already, there is a marked increase of 'child sex crimes' incited by pornography...which includes gang rapes by aged 10- 13 year olds as noted in the media and by police agencies.
There is also a marked increase in 'Entertainment rape' amongst young people, who post and share these crimes as mere entertainment.  I think that the words 'shock value' no longer exists in this so called 'freedom of speech' generation. Where young people view sexual crimes on the internet as humorous and make jokes about such horrendous abuses, such as 'gender based violence' and the 'raping of Babies'.
And my belief is that these crimes committed by children will escalate beyond comprehension in the coming years. So if we don't act now..what will our society become, in terms of moral and virtuous behaviour, serious escalation of sexual violence, physical and psychological harm and safety, sexism and misogyny, increased child sex abuse and immeasurable trafficking victims.
The only thing that I believe in helping to combat these attitudes, beliefs and crimes, is to educate young children, by approved, external agencies within schools.
It seems to me, that this age of the internet is regressing to past barbaric acts of  entertainment and acceptance, such as a 'family day out' at public executions, gladiator slaying's, public viewing of witch burning and feeding religious people to the lions.

The only difference being, is that they don't go and watch public sexual violence collectively. They just click..and share.

Porn actresses

Research on the affect of pornography

The links between pornography and sexual violence

porn and sexual violence

porn increases sexual violence

shocking footage of women abused on porn set

scene from 'hardcore'

Hardcore pornographer

Gonzo pornography

Monday, 1 April 2013

A letter to the man who destroyed my innocence.

A letter to the man who destroyed my innocence.

By Suzzan Blac – 1969.

To Don,
Just wanted you to know what has happened to me, since that first day that you came and got me.
This may not mean much to you, you may not even recall those two years that we had together. But this is what it did; and will continue to do to me.

I was sat in the garden playing with a stringed puppet. I was asking her 'if she liked butter' as I moved her face above the buttercups on the lawn, to see the yellow light on her chin.
Suddenly, your giant, seven foot shadow fell on me. I looked up at your smiling face, as you took my hand and said that you had something to show me.
As you led me up the staircase, I thought, that maybe you had a present for me.
But, when we went into the bathroom and you locked the door, I felt that something was very wrong and that I was in trouble.
You led me over to the toilet bowl, and I remember being very confused. Because when you unzipped your trousers, you kept telling me that 'I was such a good girl'.
I didn't know the words for what you did to me and made me do to you. All I thought, was that you were hurting and punishing me. But not in the same way that mother did.
So, just as I took mothers beatings, I took your punishment.
And, although, I did exactly what you wanted; I hated it so much, that I learned how to make the hurt go away, by turning all of the stains and marks on the bathroom wall, into faces.
And if I could do it really well, then it was like; I wasn't with you whilst you did those things.
And, when you punished me in front of mother, she didn't seem to mind, so I thought it was okay, because whenever she hurt me, I didn't know what I had done wrong either.
These punishments of yours lasted about two years, up until mother left you, after you had beaten her badly in front of us.

You may not remember any of this, but I certainly will for the remainder of my life.

I am going to become withdrawn, cynical and mistrusting of everyone. I am going to let others punish me in the way that you did, because I will think that this is how the world is and that I always deserve to be punished because I am always bad. You even told me that it was all my fault because 'I was so pretty'. 
Then, when I'm thirteen, I will take drugs and drink a lot of alcohol to escape these punishments, because I can't make faces out of the stains any more now that I'm older and I won't care if I die.

When I am sixteen, I will be abducted into sex trafficking and forced to do pornography and prostitution, because both mother and myself didn't care about anyone taking advantage of me, and I will accept this abduction as my own fault. I will blame myself,  because I was stupid enough to go to London with a complete stranger.

After that, I will become severely depressed, hurt myself and attempt suicide three times.
A Doctor will put me on Valium. I will think, that I myself am mentally disturbed, because I cannot recognise my own abuse. I will live with pain and trauma for the following years.

I will then give birth to a daughter and suffer incredible stress and flashbacks so I will go and seek professional help. This will cause me more stress and trauma due to secondary victimisation by family, friends and social workers.

Years later, I will paint images of your punishments and try to learn about other people like you.
I will find out, that there are millions of you, punishing millions of me, every minute of the day, all over the world. And this in itself will cause me untold distress. As will the fact, that so many of you will not get the punishment that you deserve.

And when I become a grandmother to an innocent baby girl...it will all begin again.

Every move she makes, every word that she speaks, every game that she plays...will remind me of you. You are always next to her.
And one night, when I stay over and sleep next to my daughter. My granddaughter will climb into the bed between us.
I will smile with absolute love and pride. But, it will only lasts a few seconds..because you will climb into the bed with us.
And, although I will try my hardest to get you to leave... you will remain with me until my dying breath.

From Suzzan
aged 8.